Page 5 of 21

[ 310 posts ]

Go to page Previous  1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8 ... 21  Next

dafrca's Blog: Voice from the past...
dafrca	Post subject: dafrca's Blog: Voice from the past... Posted: Fri Jun 03, 2005 6:46 am
Brood Brother Joined: Thu Feb 13, 2003 6:02 pm Posts: 10956 Location: Burbank, CA, USA	Spent some more time in the Garage tonight. Man do I have a lot of junk. More minis then I could paint in 100 years. So with Primarch's thought about having some clearer focus, I am clearing out some of my minis and some of my collections. FOW will be going as well as some of my Orks (more room for Imperials that way ). I am also going to clear out some of the dead wood, junk I collected up thinking to convert to terrain etc.  So far I have filled a couple of large paper boxes with stuff. I will not forget to offer any Epic here first. dafrca _________________ "Every Man is a But Spark in the Darkness"               - Cities of Death, page 59 Come fight me, if you dare...... http://dd-janks.mybrute.com
Top

Dwarf Supreme	Post subject: dafrca's Blog: Voice from the past... Posted: Fri Jun 03, 2005 3:54 pm
Brood Brother Joined: Fri May 20, 2005 8:45 pm Posts: 11149 Location: Canton, CT, USA	I will not forget to offer any Epic here first.   Dafrca, That would be much appreciated!   Right now I'm in that phase where I'm looking for specific things. _________________ "I don't believe in destiny or the guiding hand of fate." N. Peart

Top

dafrca	Post subject: dafrca's Blog: Voice from the past... Posted: Fri Jun 03, 2005 9:41 pm
Brood Brother Joined: Thu Feb 13, 2003 6:02 pm Posts: 10956 Location: Burbank, CA, USA	I will post any Epic to the Trade section. As for the rest, Unless someone wants to talk American FOW or random RPG books etc. They will head to ebay. dafrca _________________ "Every Man is a But Spark in the Darkness"               - Cities of Death, page 59 Come fight me, if you dare...... http://dd-janks.mybrute.com
Top

MaksimSmelchak	Post subject: dafrca's Blog: Voice from the past... Posted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 1:37 am
Brood Brother Joined: Sun Feb 16, 2003 4:43 pm Posts: 7258 Location: Sacramento, California, USA	Dafrca, *** Do you have any science fiction RPG books? *** Shalom, Maksim-Smelchak. _________________ 6mm Sci-fi: http://games.groups.yahoo.com/group/6mm ... nWarGames/ My Personal Blog: http://6mm-minis.blogspot.com/
Top

dafrca	Post subject: dafrca's Blog: Voice from the past... Posted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 2:22 am
Brood Brother Joined: Thu Feb 13, 2003 6:02 pm Posts: 10956 Location: Burbank, CA, USA	Quote (MaksimSmelchak @ 03 2005 June,17:37) *** Do you have any science fiction RPG books? *** I assume you mean in the pile of stuff I am going to clear out, yes. There is a few. I will make a list and drop you an email once it is done. dafrca _________________ "Every Man is a But Spark in the Darkness"               - Cities of Death, page 59 Come fight me, if you dare...... http://dd-janks.mybrute.com
Top

dafrca	Post subject: dafrca's Blog: Voice from the past... Posted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 7:08 am
Brood Brother Joined: Thu Feb 13, 2003 6:02 pm Posts: 10956 Location: Burbank, CA, USA	I want to share something with you tonight, but I do not want your pity. I want to share it so that you will understand some of the things going on in my life. After spending many months believing that my wife had something medically wrong with her, I have found out it was not a ?medical? issue. It was a substance abuse issue. She would have the times where she would lose her balance. Forget things. Get so ?tired? she needed to crash at 6:30 or 7:00 at night. I was such a F*&$ing idiot that I did not see the truth. Right now I feel very hollow. All that worry only to find out she has been lying to me the whole time. She knew what was wrong and allowed me to keep believing there was some unknown issue. I feel betrayed at times. The real sad thing is, it is an issue for her father and for one of her sisters. She should have known better. Addiction is a strong thing though. I feel very empty right now. I am not going to try and figure out everything right away. I will not let it get swept under the carpet either. Like I said at the start, I do not want your pity. Understanding, yes, but not pity. dafrca _________________ "Every Man is a But Spark in the Darkness"               - Cities of Death, page 59 Come fight me, if you dare...... http://dd-janks.mybrute.com
Top

MaksimSmelchak

Post subject: dafrca's Blog: Voice from the past... Posted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 7:44 am

Brood Brother Joined: Sun Feb 16, 2003 4:43 pm Posts: 7258 Location: Sacramento, California, USA

Hi Dafrca, Dafrca: I want to share something with you tonight, but I do not want your pity. I want to share it so that you will understand some of the things going on in my life. After spending many months believing that my wife had something medically wrong with her, I have found out it was not a ?medical? issue. It was a substance abuse issue. We're your friends here (at least some of your many friends) and we'll, of course, support you. This goes a long way towards explaining things, but I have an important insight to mention... Dafrca: She would have the times where she would lose her balance. Forget things. Get so ?tired? she needed to crash at 6:30 or 7:00 at night. I was such a F*&$ing idiot that I did not see the truth.

She hasn't been in control... that's how those things work. She needs help now to change those ingrained habits.

And, Daniel, you're not an idiot.

You're a decent person and a kind and loving father and husband. I admire you.

You've also been working under a lot of stress and we all miss things... it's very understandable.

In my own life, I failed to notice what was happening with that former friend, Kris. It was only this week that I sent him a short reply to his message. I'm glad I waited though. Sometimes, I think it is best to cool down and put things in perspective before acting...

Or to just be Primarch!

Dafrca: Right now I feel very hollow. All that worry only to find out she has been lying to me the whole time. She knew what was wrong and allowed me to keep believing there was some unknown issue. I feel betrayed at times.

It is a betrayal, but it doesn't mean she doesn't love you... it means she had a moment of weakness and we all have that.

It isn't something you need to feel hollow about though. It's just another thing to work through in life.

I've been having to deal with that lesson all week as I'm heading towards possible unemployment. I did something depressing yesterday... I looked into getting unemployment checks in case I don't get a job in time... I've never been unemployed in my entire life...

Dafrca: The real sad thing is, it is an issue for her father and for one of her sisters. She should have known better. Addiction is a strong thing though.

It's tough.

My family has a history of alcoholism so I've avoided the drink like noone's business.

Many of us make mistakes when we know better... trust me on this. I'm a teacher and I see this everyday. Screwing up is a part of growing up.

Be glad that you discovered this now so you can help her learn from this and move on to be a stronger person.

Dafrca: I feel very empty right now. I am not going to try and figure out everything right away. I will not let it get swept under the carpet either.

Good.

Dafrca: Like I said at the start, I do not want your pity. Understanding, yes, but not pity.

You have my understanding.

About my insight:

*** Have you heard of postpartum depression? ***

A lot of women get it, sometimes even if they didn't get it with a previous baby, and it's a tough thing to deal with, even for healthcare professionals.

I think it's worth looking into and while it doesn't excuse the behavior, it goes a long way towards explaining it. Understanding is an important part of solving problems.

In my limited experience with your wife, I've noticed that she seems to have many of the symptoms of postpartum depression syndrome...

Shabbat Shalom,
Maksim-Smelchak.

P.S.
If you change your mind about this lines of posts later and want it deleted, I'll help you out.